I don’t usually like to talk about this, because it’s a weak point for me, as I know prejudice is so real and people do tend to judge based on appearance. I know it’s wrong and I hate that society is so shallow, hence why I am encouraged by what Positive Exposure stands for.
I use a couple of dating apps, but I honestly only open them a couple of times a month because I’ve given up on them. Bumble is marginally better than Tinder but, I digress.
I opened Bumble a few days ago and was swiping half-heartedly when I matched with a guy who seemed really nice (I mean, as nice as you can seem from a dating app) who claimed to see beauty in everyone, etc. I sent him a message just saying hi and that I liked his bio. I went back to check an hour or so later and he had unmatched me. This happens so often. I’ll match with some and message them, and they will either not respond or unmatch. My friends tell me to not even give these guys a second thought because most guys on dating apps are jerks anyway. Also, if them unmatching me did have something to do with me having Moebius syndrome, then that’s a reflection of their character and that’s not someone I should want in my life anyway. It’s true. When people are unkind or unaccepting, it is a reflection of their own shallowness and I feel sorry for the fact that they are only comfortable with what is “normal”.
I hate that society can’t see beauty/good in diversity and that everyone is so driven by looks and first impressions. There is so much more to a person than what they look like. I say that so often because it is so true. We are all so much more than what we look like.
I think we have to be accepting of ourselves and who we are in order to find someone else that will do the same, so for now, that is what I am working on.
I think I would be totally fine being single for life because I have always been anyway. I’d rather spend time with pets than people anyway because they love unconditionally, are always there for you and are always so excited when you walk through the door. My friends, family and pets (who are family) are more than enough.
It’s very difficult to find love externally when you don’t love yourself first. We all should be 100% comfortable with who we are because we all have so much beauty and light to share with the world. I am so proud to be surrounded by this positivity and light that is found in all of you, as Positive Exposure ambassadors.